Can We Actually “Fake It Until We Make It”? The Truth Behind This Cliche
Just picture, at least for a couple of seconds, what I am about to describe.
You wake up at exactly the time that you should naturally wake up. No alarm clock, no appointments, no work, you just naturally wake up… and you feel great!
You don’t need 5 more minutes because you have so much energy and excitement about the day. You jump out of bed and start your routine with great energy because you have something to do that you are looking forward to.
Breakfast goes perfectly! Magically, the eggs you are cooking don’t stick to the pan, the bacon is exactly as crispy as you like it, and the juice you are drinking is as fresh and natural as possible. As if that wasn’t enough, the coffee you are drinking feels like made by a barista... It’s simply perfect.
At this point, you feel like nothing could ruin your day because everything in your life is going great! Recently you got a promotion, your side-business is growing, your relationship is getting to a whole new level, and your friends and family are all on the same positive note. There is no trace of negativity in your life.
Now, let’s say that at this point you put on some headphones and start listening to melancholic and sad music for the rest of the day. Those songs that remind you of failed relationships or missed opportunities that will never come back.
How do you think the rest of your day will go if you keep listening to that music?
Not so good right?
At that point, you are faking the sadness into your life. You are hacking sadness into your system, and state, just by listening to music that makes you feel that way. Do you see how we can actually hack ourselves?
What if you picked energizing and positive music? How would that turn out?
As you can see, even the smallest decisions you make each day will affect the rest of it. So what can we do about it?
Can We Fake Success?
Fake it until you make it.
We’ve heard this phrase many times! Some people love it and others hate it, but what does it really mean?
Some people take it as a permission to mislead others or use any means justified by a purpose. Yes, we are free to come up with our own opinions and interpretations and we will all be informed by our own experiences. Yes, there is no absolute truth (and this is absolutely true). Yet, if you don’t think there is a lot of value in the cliche of “Fake it until you make it” then you might not be living a meaningful life.
To me, it’s about putting in the work first. It’s about taking action with the best of intentions, without unrealistic expectations, and with the goal of creating value without expecting anything in return. Yet, knowing that what goes around comes around and eventually, the universe will take care of everything.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m a very competitive and goal-oriented person so I’m not just floating like a butterfly all day without a clear purpose or direction. But we have to learn how to flow.
So what comes first? Action, feeling, or thought?
Paul Ekman, American psychologist and pioneer in the studies of emotions and facial expressions, might provide some value to answer that question.
I his book Blink, Malcolm Gladwell shares some insights found on a research conducted by Ekman.
“What we discovered is that expression alone is sufficient to create marked changes in the autonomic nervous system.”
Ekman, Friesen, and Levenson connected people to different monitors to measure their heart rate and body temperature. Half of the volunteers were told to think about a stressful situation they have experienced. The other half were taught how to create the facial expressions that represented stressful emotions such as anger, sadness, and fear.
What they found is that both groups showed the exact physiological responses. So yes! You can fake it until you make it.
So the faking it is not about tricking others or saying something that it’s not true. It’s inwards! It’s about tricking ourselves. This is a real-life hack. We can rewrite our code to change our states, which in turn will affect the way we feel and think.
Tools To Hack Your Mind
The first step to hack yourself is believing that you can do so. Then, you need to identify the “brain code” that you want to rewrite. Believe or not, this is the easy part.
Then you have to work relentlessly to change those patterns, behaviors, and responses that you’ve been strengthening for many years. It took you 10, 20, or maybe even 30 years to cultivate the habits you currently have so this will not change in just a couple of months. It might take years to do so.
So when is the best moment to start rewriting your “brain code”? Well, the best moment was when you were a kid so that you could actually write the code the right way. The second best moment to do so is TODAY.
This is something we will talk about in the first video of the Creator’s Journey Workshop. If you feel that you have thought patterns, or beliefs, that are limiting you then you need to change that mindset and the story you are telling yourself.
The workshop will start in October and this time around will be FREE because it is the pilot-version. If you would like to be part of it, so that you can define and achieve success on your own terms then you are lucky because we still have some spots left.
Click here to sign up.
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