Most people are lazy!
But not you, you clicked on this article. You at least want to change and are looking for tools and resources to do so.
Most people complain!
But not you (well, we all complain sometimes), at least not anymore because after reading this you will be able to complain in a positive way.
Most people are lazy and complain!
The little energy they have available to do something they use it to complain. Isn’t that a waste of time? Think about it, if you are lazy, at least you should try to make the most of out the few actions you take.
In fact, as Matt pointed in this article, we are wired to be lazy to preserve energy and survive.
So, what can we do about it? Let’s rephrase that… What are we GOING TO DO about it?
The goal of this article is to share with you a couple of actionable steps that you can take to stop complaining and start doing. We want you to take action and make things happen so that you can advance your career.
Advancing your career takes a lot of work! Also, you will face many obstacles while doing so. Therefore, the first step is overcoming the barriers of being lazy and complaining.
Having a strong reason to do things is what will keep you committed, even when things go wrong. For this reason, our most popular resource is the Identify Your Professional Purpose FREE e-guide.
Yet, that is just the beginning.
Let’s take a look at some things we can do to overcome these barriers!
Learn How to Listen
Storytime (we all love stories)!
I recently went to the Derby in The City music festival, in Austin, and had the opportunity to meet one of the co-founders and organizers of the event.
Turns out the event is “just a hobby”. It is not their profession, expertise, or main business; they just enjoy the fact of creating a valuable experience for others.
At some point in our conversation, he was talking about how he installed a water purification system on a property he has in the Hill Country. This part of the conversation, in any other situation, could’ve gone on for less than a minute.
It could’ve been as short as “I installed a water purification system to have clean water at the property.”.
Instead, he went on and on explaining how he researched the different methods you could use to purify water and how some of them kill bacteria and others don’t. Then he explained, from start to finish, all the steps that happen during that purification process.
I must be honest, I’m not very knowledgeable about water purification or about some of the science terminology that was used in the conversation. Thanks to that, I was able to leave that conversation with so much value!
During the conversation, especially in the moments that I got a bit lost, I started a conversation with myself in my head, which went something like this:
- Wow, this seems very interesting. Just by looking at his body language I can tell he is very passionate about everything he does.
- But what do I care about water purification, is not going to help me in any way! I don't need to purify my water! Yet, I should listen because I can learn by doing so.
- We are talking about water purification! And it seems interesting (for someone who doesn’t know much about it). Also, I can learn about storytelling just by listening to this interesting story.
Then my inner dialogue stopped and I got back to learning about the whole process, and asking more questions about it.
How many times have you cut a conversation short because you didn’t have anything to say about the topic?
Why do you do so? Because you need to prove that you also know something?
Sometimes we just have to shut up and listen!
The other thing I realized, because I recently read The Tipping Point, is that he is exactly the type of people that I want to be around with. Because the people we hang around with will shape our lives.
I want to hang out with:
- People that are curious!
- People that found value and are interested in what seems mundane!
- People that are passionate about what they do, even if it is installing a water purification system!
- People that add value to everyone around them because they like sharing!
Make an inventory of the 5 people you spend the most time with? Those people will define your future whether you like it or not.
There are several stories, and research, that Malcolm Gladwell talks about in the book that puts science behind the quote “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.”
If you want to stop complaining... then stop hanging around people that are always complaining!
Also, start hanging around people that hate complaining or hate people that complain!
Change Your Environment, Change Yourself
If anything, the key takeaway is that we must be careful of who we hang around with.
This doesn’t mean going around judging people and making a checklist or an excel file on how to optimize your relationships.
It just means being around the people who push you to be a better person. Be around the people who want the best for you and are willing to offer support. Be around the people that make you feel good.
This is the type of community we want to create at BizLatte. We want to help you by offering the best tools and resources to advance your career. If you’ve hung around is because you are one of us, one of the misfits who are willing to create your own path and travel the least traveled path. You are driven and purposeful.
Stay in touch and join our community of like-minded individuals that are purposeful and find meaning in everything they do.